Why Do So Many Think That Bisexual People Are Incapable of Fidelity?

In a recent article for The Daily Mail, UK stand-up comedian and and actress Jackie Clune talks about how her lesbianism was a 'life-choice' that she gave up to be happily married, with children, to a man. She also explains that she understands that not all women have that choice.

That's all fine but she goes on to reinforces the stereotype that bisexual people are incapable of fidelity:

"Actually I have never thought of myself as bisexual. And I certainly don't now that I am married. That would be tantamount to admitting that I am thinking of being unfaithful with a woman, which has never been the case."

I have had long-term monogamous relationships with both men and women so don't really understand why people think that a bisexual has no restraint. If you have an exclusive relationship with anyone, whatever your sexuality, then you choose to be with that person alone.  Bisexuality is not black and white; most people have a preference for one gender but have also experienced attraction to another. I, for instance, see myself as predominantly gay with a very slight tendency towards men (well David Beckham at least!).  Kinsey created a scale to express this:

Kinsey Scale

0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual 1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual 2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual 3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual 4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual 5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual 6- Exclusively homosexual

While I certainly would not judge Jackie Clune for who she chooses to have a relationship with, and I don't think the gay community should either, you would think, having had relationships with both genders, that she would have a better understanding of sexuality. I think that it's about time that people weren't seen as untrustworthy purely because of their sexual orientation.

Read the Daily Mail Article

Jackie Clune's Article in The Guardian

Kinsey Institute Homosexual Heterosexual Scale 

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